How To Shift Your Experience

How To Shift Your Experience

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Season 4 is about the power up it’s time to build momentum people, many of you are in some type of transition where you are coming from one level of your career and getting ready and motivated to go to the next level of your career or your business. It’s no more time for thinking, this cannot be another year where you have those I want to dos, I should dos, I’m going to dos. It is truly about and i must in your life. It needs to stop being this theoretical thing that is all the way above your head and you reach up and grab it and pull the reality down to create your own experience.

Today we are going to talk about shifting your experience. There is a tendency for successful, entrepreneurial women and men like ourselves to think about everything we didn’t do, or everything we didn’t prepare for, in essence the negative life events. I want to invite you to forget what your situation was like yesterday, and shift your experience into the here and now, that’s where the good stuff is.

And You Must Find The Good Stuff 🙂

Guest Expert Today

Parchelle Hotten is a former high school math teacher turned entrepreneur. A native of Virginia Beach, her video production company Fresh Level Productions, has served a number of clients from Verizon to Habitat for Humanity. Her passion for education continues, as she currently speaks on numerous marketing topics and has recently been invited to be an NCE course instructor with Temple University. Featured online in CNN, FOX and Wall Street, Parchelle is a sought out business leader, and currently resides with her husband in Philadelphia, where her company has expanded.

The Secrets of Shifting Your Experience

  • Things may not go exactly how you planned, whether that’s in your business, relationships or life, or all three. Make the decision to shift your experience.
  • Shifting your experience includes looking realistically at your situation and looking at the things that make you feel good, empowered, and happy.
  • #ShaketheShame and guilt associated with your P.I.V.O.T.S in life.
  • Power up or build your momentum to execute your plan  
  • Don’t ask yourself disqualifying questions, ask yourself questions that empower you and inspire your greatness
  • Highlight the best parts of your situation when it gets tough
  • When you ask the right questions you begin to get under the surface and begin finding solutions that you didn’t know existed.  

Unapologetic pause

Parchelle’s unapologetic pause includes playing with her basketball league, it helps her step away from her phone. She really likes hulu or netflix and massages!

A littleGentle Honesty Shift the focus to who you have served, and your fears will disappear.

Balance Boldly is a weekly podcast hosted by International Balance & Relationship Advisor, Naketa Thigpen with pop ups from her Creative Writing, direct to the point husband Dean.  Naketa provides a time, space and opportunity for Bold Women and a few Brave men to receive the decoded truth through raw, unfiltered stories of how guilt, lack of vulnerability and shame  can stunt every aspect of your personal and business growth.

This podcast is filled with direct narratives and unscripted conversations with global industry experts who candidly share their business experience and tools for success through a personalized peak into their lives with stories you won’t find on Google.

First, give yourself Permission to Pause, unapologetically.

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Thank you for listening!

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Thank you to our guest expert,  Parchelle Hotten

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It’s Battle Time

It’s Battle Time


As the conversation began, the voice at the other end of the line was vulnerable and shaken. That wobbly intonation belonged to a woman who was feeling unfulfilled with her current job and fearful of taking the fateful leap toward happiness which, in her case, would be starting her very own business. In the early stages of my entrepreneurship, I would indiscriminately hold dozens of complimentary assessment sessions, like this one, with prospective clients. What should have been 15 – 20 minute valuations would often run 45 minutes to an hour. I helped the woman steady herself through breathing exercises and self-awareness drills. We spent the remainder of the call identifying her purpose and creating a to-do list for her prospective start-up. The woman who was all but devastated at the beginning of the call was now rejuvenated and excited. “This is only the beginning,” I told her, “there’s a lot of work that needs to be done.” She pledged her commitment to the program and asked what the cost would be for me to take her on as a client. Honestly, during this time, my prices were set way too low. Though my services were unique to the professional development market, there was enough industry-relevant data where I could research the corporate rates and use that standard when setting my prices – which I did. The problem was I would set my prices far below the industry average in hopes of swaying clients to my company. What’s worse, I would often cut said prices drastically in the name of closing the deal. It wasn’t before long that I was providing top tier services to numerous clients for nominal wages concurrently setting an anemic foundation ripe for my company’s violent plunge. When I laid out the pricing (which was too low) to the woman, she politely balked and began to renege from her original enthusiastic verbal commitment. Fearing the prospect of losing out on the deal, I not only cut the price but acquiesced to an overly generous payment plan. She, of course, accepted.

You learn a lot about yourself as an entrepreneur. Your moral code, shrewdness and sensibilities are tested early and often. What I would come to learn was my willingness to over-compromise was not so much an attempt to pay the bills (though it was a major factor) but was directly related to my self-worth. Industry standard rates are one thing but the price(s) must ultimately compliment the services. I, as the service provider, had to acknowledge that my skills and services were not only worth the fair asking price, but the value of my assistance far exceeded any rate some might find too pricey. In the beginning, I considered securing a ‘yes’ from a client as an irrefutable triumph and being told ‘no’ as an epic failure. In life and business, our inherent reflex is to shield ourselves from rejection as best we can. Our efforts to safeguard our emotions, susceptibilities and even, brand can result in the formation of poor practices such as… you guessed it… a willingness to over-compromise. Now, in business, encountering situations where some compromise is www.thigpro.comneeded is not atypical of a normal day’s work. Knowing your worth is an invaluable anchor at the negotiation table. It allows the ‘yes’ to remain the objective but, most notably, it transforms the ‘no’ to ‘next’. The philosophy may ring similar to a corny old adage but the thinking is spot on. Someone not willing to sign on with your company is not closing the door but lighting the path to the next opportunity. The only way to see this track is to know your worth. And for most of us, truly knowing our worth requires us to confront ourselves in a bareknuckle brawl to quell the self-doubt and reverse a depreciating mindset that many of us aren’t fully aware exists within. How each of us arrives at this idyllic way of thinking is unique to our personal journeys. For me, part of my clarity arrived when a then-existing client failed to make a scheduled payment only hours later to be seen flashing her glowing smile and new designer handbag on Facebook en route to an impromptu trip to Vegas for the weekend with the girls. Now, I’m no hater and all of those things – from the trip to the bag – are glorious. But this was the same woman who plead desperately for an extension because she didn’t have the money to pay me for services rendered… Services that included my assisting her in reaching the goal of opening the business she had dreamt of owning since she was a young girl. Eventually, it would be me saying ‘no’ to her because I figured, ‘if your dream isn’t worth more to you than a handbag and a spell at the poker table then it certainly isn’t worth it to me’. My saying ‘no’ in this case was freeing. It allowed me to pursue other opportunities and more serious clients. Of course there will be some who you may need to say ‘no’ to who will take it as a flickering match to a combustible bridge. It depends in part in how tactfully you deliver the refusal and how phlegmatically the other party receives it. For the connections worth salvaging, some relationship management may be in order. For others, letting go may be in the best interest for both sides.

So, the next time someone tells you ‘no’ and negotiations come to a close, give them an honest smile, stern handshake and say ‘thank you’. They’ve just made that trail to the next big opportunity a little brighter.

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